Taboo Topic Alert: Lonliness
- trulyflavius
- Dec 26, 2025
- 3 min read
Loneliness Is Still a Taboo Topic
Loneliness is one of those experiences we rarely talk about honestly;
especially as adults, and especially as women.
Somewhere along the way, loneliness became something we associate with failure.
As if admitting it means:
we didn’t build the right life
we didn’t choose the right people
we didn’t pray hard enough
we didn’t have enough faith
So instead of naming it, we hide it.
We stay productive.
We stay spiritual.
We stay “strong.”
And we stay silent.
I Know This Silence
In my book Weeping Her Way to Wholeness, I write about seasons where I was surrounded by responsibility, achievement, and expectation—yet deeply alone.
Not because I lacked people, but because I was carrying:
grief
transitions
identity shifts
questions that didn’t fit neatly into conversation
I learned how to:
function while quietly unraveling
show up while holding tears behind my smile
keep believing while feeling unseen
Loneliness doesn’t always look like isolation.
Sometimes it looks like:
competence
leadership
faithfulness without witnesses
Loneliness Shows Up in Many Forms
Loneliness is broader than we’re willing to admit.
It can look like:
divorce, when the life you built no longer exists
empty nest, when the house grows quiet and identity shifts
never married, living a full life yet feeling unseen
having a large family, but still feeling unknown
It also shows up for:
remote workers, spending long days without real connection
college students, navigating independence while feeling unmoored
immigrants, building new lives far from familiar language and culture
minorities, existing in spaces where parts of who they are feel invisible
Loneliness is not limited to being alone.
It often exists in the presence of others.
Why Loneliness Feels Taboo
Loneliness contradicts the “successful adult” narrative.
We’re expected to have:
community
family
partnership
church
purpose
joy
When those boxes appear checked, life looks complete from the outside.
So when loneliness enters the picture, it can feel like admitting:
“I failed at life.”
That belief keeps many women quiet.
But the truth is this:
Loneliness is not failure
Loneliness is not weakness
Loneliness is not a lack of faith
Often, loneliness is a season of transition.
A holy in-between.
A place where the old life no longer fits
and the new one hasn’t fully formed yet.
Quiet Seasons Reveal What Noise Was Covering
The day after Christmas.
The pause after milestones.
The stillness after loss or change.
These moments have a way of revealing what noise once hid.
Instead of rushing to fix the quiet,
what if we learned how to sit with it compassionately?
Why I Created the Companion
That question is what led me to create
Healing the Lonely Season™ — Christmas & New Year Edition.
This companion is:
not a checklist
not a push toward productivity
not a demand to “move on”
It is:
a place to breathe
space to reflect
gentle prayers
room to name what you’re carrying without judgment
It exists alongside Weeping Her Way to Wholeness because healing is not linear.
The book shares my journey from breaking to becoming.
The companion gives you space to tend to yours—right where you are.
If Loneliness Has Felt Hard to Admit
Please hear this clearly:
You are not behind
You are not broken
You are not alone
Loneliness doesn’t need an explanation to be real.
It simply needs compassion.
And if this season feels quiet, know this:
Quiet does not mean empty.
Sometimes it’s where God does His deepest work.
Join the Conversation
If this reflection resonated, you don’t have to stay on the outside of the conversation.
You’re warmly invited to join my private Facebook community:
Sis, You’re Not Alone
A faith-centered space for women navigating lonely and transitional seasons—
with honest conversations, insightful posts, gentle encouragement, and real companionship.
👉 Join the group here:
Inside the group, you’ll find:
ongoing conversations about lonely seasons and becoming
thoughtful, faith-rooted reflections
women who understand quiet seasons without judgment
space to listen, reflect, or participate at your own pace
You’re also welcome to read Weeping Her Way to Wholeness, where I share my personal journey through breaking seasons, hidden grief, and the slow work of becoming whole again:
And if this season feels especially tender, you’ll find Healing the Lonely Season™ as a free companion inside the Facebook group.
None of these are requirements.
They are simply invitations.
Take your time.
Love,
Truly
You don’t have to walk this season alone.
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